how can i cope with anger and sadness at him

[Jstar]

He never wanted the baby is that what you meant by he never wanted it?

Dealing with it is going to be a challenge and I'm not going to say god only gives you what you can handle. You have got to try to distance yourself like you have and take care of you. You body may have healed quickly from the miscarriage but the rest of what could have been, bday's how old baby would be such and such will be there as well.

You take one day at a time, do as much as you can without causing yourself stress. Set a daily goal for youself, even if it is to just take a shower get ready and make yourself food. then the next day you add onto that.

I stupidly still want my h back and to have that life with raising children together my head knows it's not right he's not going to change. his character is who he is. My heart has not caught up despite all that he's done to me and the kids.

My h acted as though it never happened as well. Well that is until his mother put her lovely opinion in and told him ikilled the baby and taht i was trying to kill the one i'm carrying now. he refused to take any responsibility for the stress and hardship he caused. He never will take resonsibility or acknowledge it.

Your h may not know how to deal with it.

So if you are going back to the marital home you are going to need to prepare yourself to do that. Do you plan on staying there with him? The home belongs to both of you and you have as much right to it as him. DB would say for you to move back in, even if in seperate rooms. If he wants to pursue a divorce let him. You're not going to sign anything until you seek your own legal advice.

the thing you need to ask yourself is if you are going to return and move back in, are you prepared for what is going to happen or what could happen? Do you want to deal with that at this point in time?

I had to get on AD's to deal with the stress of situation because it was affecting me in all aspects of my life. thanks for saying i'm strong, my parents(m.g.r.t.s.) raised me that way. Unfortuantely my hair and skin are showing my age....trying to bring some humor.