Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[Day by Day]

WTH... yeah, he is feeling guilty. Looks like he's pretty comfortable with the situation and not feeling like he has to do much anymore. But after realizing how sick S is, it got to him. Too late. Ugh... sorry you are having to deal with it all on your own. Hope your S gets better soon.

Today I am tired of DBing!!!! I want to take a break! There is no end in sight! But like I said, this month,he will be here but I will be gone so I get a break from seeing him and from DBing.

Your love bank sounds like it's getting to be overdrawn. I think this is when you need to do a lot of thinking on what to do next. For me that was the turning point. My lovebank got bone dry. I'm detached and don't want him anymore. Tired of banging my head on a brick wall. I'm looking elsewhere.

You've done this AoS for a bit and what reaction have you seen? You've been DBing for quite a while and what progress have you seen? I think he's somewhat guilty about S, but what about you? Has there been any steps towards R? What is working or is this just limbo?

Hopefully by you not seeing him and your break from DBing, YOU will get stronger and focus on newmama. You will get your love bank filled with other things, friends, having fun, etc. Get to the point where you are happy without him. If he decides to finally open his eyes and want be a husband, great--if he doesn't, fine. You will survive... you are right now. He has it too easy right now IMHO. Just seeing this from my PVO.

(((newmama)))