(((Luv)))) I am so sorry. I was where you are at a few months ago. It is a nightmare.
YOu have to decide if you want to still try to repair your M or if this is a deal breaker for you.
If you want to try, it is time calmly state that you are willing to work on this, and will work towards forgiveness and reconciliation... but ONLY IF he ends the R completely with OW and offers complete transparency. Then you stand your ground.
My H took 3 weeks after that to decide, but he chose our M and we are making progress. The choice will be his.
His behavior is unacceptable and you do not have to take this. You finding out may create the crisis needed for him to finally get his head out of his a*$ and make a decision.
You can do this. You are a strong and amazing woman!
