LIMBO NO MO!

[Gardener]

gima,

I decided the best thing to do is calm down and talk to W about this some time today or tomorrow, preferably today. I'm still angry, but I'm in control.

Invoke the 48 hour rule.

I see this as W trying to pit S against one set of God parents and emphasize a strong bond with the set who are "on W's side." God, that bothers me.

You can't control it and the fact that S told you tells me it ain't gonna work. At all. Ignore it. Don't take the bait, even if it is second-hand bait.

And yet again, I will have to be the one to initiate the serious discussion. No sweat, since I'm the one with a backbone these days.

Maybe you're right. If you want to address it, consider framing and communicating a Boundary on it and then walk away.

Good luck.