Oh, and just so you know, I've been working really hard over the past 10 years to resolve this situation. W and I have read a small library of books, including those by MWD, Gottman, Schnarch, Suzanne Somers, Gray, etc., etc...
I have tried seeing things from her perspective, working to give her what she wants, doing nice things for her, etc, etc...
I've always been the "romantic" one - writing love songs, giving nice gifts, poetry, etc. The kids see this also. Truth is, I've pretty much concluded there isn't anything I can do to make anything different, it's really up to her at this point. I intend to make it clear in our therapy sessions that I really cannot live this way any more, and we either find another way to be together, or we'll have to learn to live apart.
