LOL... I like what RobX said, Rob I second his challenge.
It is funny but I read something about women who cuddle with men but don't have sex with them, they no longer view those men in a sexual way because the men have trained these women to believe that they aren't sexual so it turns off the entire attraction mechanism, every night that he cuddles with her and gets "nothing", he is insuring that he will continue to get "nothing" from her.
And I'm sure as $hit that the OM doesn't have to cuddle with her to get sex, he's honest that way, he wants sex, he gets sex, if they cuddle afterwards, maybe but that's post sex not before it and more than likely she talks to the OM about him and they probably have a good chuckle at his expense, ie. "all we do is cuddle, he doesn't ask for sex, he's too afraid" and boy that sounds sexy to me ;-)
