When the LBS truly detaches, it may only be the WAS who holds the attachment torch. Only if the WAS starts pursuing can reconciliation occur. But even then, both the WAS and the LBS must be open to and capable of re-attachment, with each other.
You must be open and capable of attachment even with a new person. It's interesting they say it takes about 2 years to get over divorce before you are able to get involved with someone else and commit again. And they suggest about the same time to achieve success with DB. I can see how it will take me long time to be open and capable to commit again. Right now I feel like what's the point of being committed to someone, if they will walk out on you anyway. Hopefully I will feel different with time.
