OTMT, having a giant list for your goals is a good idea. Having a list like that for someone else...not so much IMO. No matter what happens you and your W will have issues to negotiate and conflicts to resolve, whether that's in your M or as coparents. I think you need to focus on communicating your needs/wants in the present.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.