Well, that is what you get when you "bluff" and get called on it.
You have made a classic mistake. You were TRYING to make him jealous by throwing it out there that you are going to see other people. That is ridiculous. OF COURSE he is going to tell you to go ahead. Why? He KNOWS you don't mean it. He KNOWS and feels you are just saying that to make him jealous.
Your answer is to CALL his bluff on your bluff. When a BS starts socially interacting the most effective thing to do is to NOT say anything to the WS. You don't TELL them you are doing it, you just do it. Any person that has ever played poker has at one time or another bluffed. When the opponent calls their bluff, should the first person who bluffed just throw in their hand? That is what you did. What if the first person who bluffed actually HAD the better hand? Well the one who bluffed is in for a big surprise isn't he? He wasn't worried when he called your original bluff because he had studied you and knew your game so well that he sensed that he knew when you bluff.
Play the hand out here and call his bluff by doing exactly what you warned him about. You won't know your answer until the hand is played out. You are wanting to throw your cards in too soon because you are believing his bluff means you will lose the hand. NOT TRUE.
Why are you being so transparent? I wish I could tell you how many times I have seen a BS say to the WS."How would you feel if I started seeing someone?" It is a cheeseless tunnel. ESPECIALLY when the WS has OW....
Your answer here is to SHOW him by doing. NO TALK. ACTION. Not to make him jealous, but to show him you ARE moving on. That isn't done with words and bluffs and threats. It is done by doing.
CALL his bluff with action. Neither one of you will know how he is going to feell UNTIL he has to face the reality. The thing that wakes them up isn't you seeing other people, but thinking that your thoughts and feelings have SWITCHED to someone new. A specific person that he senses has taken over your thoughts.
Stop trying to control this. Just keep going out and having fun and interacting with people. Stop trying to plan and trying to get a reaction from him. Go out and meet others and just have fun and let things open up on their own.
