again, your H is doing exactly the same as mine. although he's not as far gone yet, but if you don't start doing something...then he will be.
like everyone said, quit with the R talks. and READ THE DIVORCE REMEDY, I swear, I feel like you haven't read this. so read it again.
Do you want to have your marriage back? the one when you were happy 50%? and have that 50% be even bigger??? Then quit doing what your brain is telling you to do, and stop just LISTENING to us and start DOING IT.
I'm throwing you 2x4s because you have had WAY more power in your hands in this sitch and it's killing me to see you let it just slip away from you.
I really felt he had a OW because of the signs, but it wasn't escalating until recently. But that still doesn't matter. and it makes even more sense. I have been in his shoes, and he's dying inside. I know you may not think it, and he's being a jerk right? well, that's because he's struggling. He's getting his needs met by this OW because he wasn't getting it at home. It's not okay, but it's just how it is. That's how A's start. So, the whole point is, part of him wants to have his M, but he FEELS that he will just have to continue to be miserable if he does and he believes nothing will ever change. but this OW is giving him everything he's wanting so it's like a high, an addiction, and so that's why he is living on his feelings. He's going to act erratic and crazy and definitely show anger, especially if you react to him.
SOOOOO, that is why you have to focus on you and stop reacting to him.
so are you ready to step it up???
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
