Saffie, he ALWAYS joins in. That's what he does acually, he is very into doing things with the kids when he is present. Whatever I suggest or they ask, he agrees happily...
Today my D was hysterical because I forbid my son to play with his DSi. He is addicted to it. She was crying and crying and then she said : "let me explain why I am soooo sad and stressed. Daddy left us because you were fighting (the poor excuse he gave to the kids-not true btw), now you are fighting with my brother and he will go away too...".
I want to punch him for that. I told him the first time he used that excuse it wasnt proper. My D now thinks she has to avoid fights at any cost so the person she is interacting with, wont leave her
I called and told him that. I told him kids remember what they are told and it affects their lives. I told our D that wasnt true, that couples fight and dont break up, I gave her examples of my brothers' family, of my parents who have fought in front of her (little fights)and that when she is older we will talk about why me and her dad split up. He said "yes you are right, it was lousy what I told them back then". K
