I don't think you should exclude him from your plans but rather make your plans and make sure he knows his presence is welcome and you hope he will be there.....but don't change them if he decides not to join in.
Plan some fun things for you and the kids at home this weekend so that your H can join in and be there, but don't rely/ expect him to join in. For example, teach you children massage - it's something I have done with mine. They were all massaged from babies and so then I taught them how to do simple things like hand and foor massages back to me and each other - great stress busters and fun when someone gets all tickly!!! You H might enjoy a massage.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
