He said he is done!!

[lea74]

Lost, it sounds like you are doing great. Please can I give you some adivse - keep up the boundaries and also please keep an eye of caution. I dont want to dampen your spirits but I have been there. I have been with my H since I was 14 and also thought I knew him. We also had good laugh, and also communicated a lot when he first moved out, moved then we ever did. We were even intimate and had very flirtatious texts. He used to hug me and tell me how great I looked - I have lost about 10kilos. He took me shopping for clothes and we said we would be friends and also try to do whats best for the boys. However, and I really hope this only applies to my case, but he still filed and she is still around. I do think she is playing a great game - something I am not good at.

Like I said you are doing great - dont make the same mistake I did and fall into the trap when he is nice and let your guard down. Keep DBing, GALIng and setting and keeping your boundaires. (My H also said that he wouldnt have her around at first). Domt react - keep using your journal ans also take other peoples advise with a bit of caution. They can fill your head with whtat they think is good advise but not relevant advise - my sister suggested that a D was a good idea. We are now at a very crucial point as he isnt happy with my suggested childcare arrangments and things are getting nasty.