You know best how to handle your sitch. I'm reading words on the screen, and do not know the inner workings and dynamic of your M. My advice is based on my sitch, with my H., which is different than yours.
I understand what you mean about contradictory advice; gets a little overwhelming at times, trying to figure out what the best or most effective thing to say or do is.
Good luck, you'll come up with something productive, I'm sure. (((flowmom)))
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
