Bill,
The reason your wife is going back and forth and such is that she is probably getting pressure from the OM. You are lying to yourself if you think there isn't something still going on.

She wants her cake and eat it too. She is scared to lose you because she doesn't feel he is a sure thing.

The only reason she would be feeling so up and down about her decision isn't limbo. It IS because of the OM.. BANK ON IT.GUARANTEED...

When a woman acts like this it is because of another man... You are deceiving yourself if you believe anything different than that.