He is helping by not spending like crazy and that is a huge help.
Mat I wish you would try counseling... or look into a Divorce Care class. A lot of people who go through the class have been divorced for awhile. My leaders wife had been D'd for 7 years when she finally took it.
How is your DD doing?
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
