#2: WAH separated from us & I'm on the DBing path

[flowmom]

I talked about the email with my sister, and she warned me against sounding formal or dramatic, as this has been a trigger for H in the past, and realistically he will not hear me if my language is triggering for him. This is what we came up with:

There may have been a good reason for your change of plans, but I called you at work yesterday and you weren't there. Misleading us put me in a position of "covering" for you with the children. I am not willing to keep doing that. We can do this without dishonesty.

I'd love your input. Keep in mind 1. I don't want to make a huge stink about this 2. I do want to set a boundary and 3. I want to elicit his cooperation as a coparent.