I'm sorry, that must have been awful to listen to that woman prattle on. Shame on her.
I think you did a good job with the confrontation with H earlier. I hope you feel strong enough to have a more serious convo with him soon.
I'm with G and Gardener. I know that I have to spell things out explicitly for BF and not just once. Figure out exactly what you need and want then commincate that to H. I know, easier said than done.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
How could this woman whose H knows all about her indiscretions have a H that still wants her?
I know you know the answer to that question. But I want you to answer it.
Well you kept it civil. And next time you talk to her. Tell her exactly what you think. But tell it to her in a way that you give her a chance to stop this destructive behaviour.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Mo3 - LoL G(no) knows the now, too. That's a serious LMAO!
Gardener - I found a way (not deliberately!) to be not so subtle!
Jeffy - HUGS back friend! Should be flying out by you soon!
Pearl - Thanks for the encouragement! I need to send you an email via the alt. Go potty before opening.
Cutter - I am not friends w/this person anymore, so I don't plan on talking to her. She stopped by my house, and kind of threw me off. She can live her own f"d up life. I just feel bad for her little boy... And, I need help w/the question. Headtilt
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Sorry ST, I'm going to disagree with you on this one. Us men don't get subtle... or if we do... it takes like... FOREVER and a day for it to register.
Mind's going to have to TELL him what she wants... exactly like she did today. Then give him some time to digest it -- because even with direct it takes a little while.
good point G, and I know that, but I'm not talking about being subtle. I'm talking speaking loudly thru action. many times guys don't "listen" to us, mostly because we've been the telling/whining type, so our words go in one ear and out the other, so I always say using action with guys can speak louder than words...but I understand what your saying, and since Mindful hasn't been doing ANY R talks, then maybe that would be a better idea.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Well you kept it civil. And next time you talk to her. Tell her exactly what you think. But tell it to her in a way that you give her a chance to stop this destructive behaviour.
I agree with that too, but if you'd rather not talk to her, I am totally for that too.
how about giving the DR book to her H? sounds like he could really use it.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Mindfull, Do you want to continue being distant together?? I feel ready to pull back and see that you are in the same place!
come on, it will be fun! (not really but trying to be positive)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I need to send you an email via the alt. Go potty before opening.
