Onwards and upwards!

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Thanks for stopping by my thread, P. I just spent awhile reading your whole sitch. And I've started cutterbug's. What strikes me most is how far you've come so quickly. I know it doesn't probably seem short in any way to you. It just looks from the outside as though you stumbled a couple times in the beginning and then just kept on moving "onward and upward" as you say.

LOL. There is no way I'd go back and read my own thread ... I'd be too embarassed. I feel I have come a long way. As I said in your thread, I'm not quite there yet, but I am as far as I can expect to be just now.

I have come to the stage now where I actually laugh at some of the stupid things I did during the M. Little things and big things. I was such a different person back then and I was such a d^*k at time it was unreal.

I know what I did wrong in the M. Maybe not all of it but enough. I know that I will take those lessons to any relationship in the future. In fact, my new relationship I am doing everything the right way that I did wrong in the M. None of this stuff is actually rocket science, most of it is actually quite easy and if I wasn't in such good humour about it all I think I'd be kicking myself that I didn't do it in the M and it helped to destroy it. Instead I just laugh about what an idiot I was ... but I can laugh, as that idiot isn't me anymore. It's like laughing at somebody else ... that is actually quite a strange but comforting feeling.

W has no idea what went wrong, really went wrong. She blames me for it all. That will get her nowhere. I've done the soul searching. She has yet to do that. If I know her at all, she won't bother. She will believe she was right and her family will help reinforce that in her while they believe her rewrite of the marriage history that she has spun them. Me. I don't care about that anymore. They have an adulterous daughter who would rather change partners than deal with conflict and a, probably, soon to be son-in-law who thinks it's cool to prey on married women and abandon his own children. Good luck to them all. They will damn well need it!

I'm just glad I found out about it after 3.5 years instead of 10 years and 2 kids later.

As Denis Leary puts it so well 'Sh*t happens. Buy a hard hat'. I've got mine

I hope when I have the put the same amount of time in I am nearly as far toward my own health and happiness as you are today.

I actually take that as a HUGE compliment. Thank you!