Question

[ClingingToHope]

I know V-day is this upcoming weekend and we have a three day weekend. Nothing has been said and I am trying to decide on getting him anything. Suggestions? I actually have a four day weekend so I am excited and need the rest. H hasn't said anything about it except "it is valentine's day" when his mom brought up having lobster at his grandma's house that weekend. I said I didn't have plans, and don't so we will see.

I'd say don't get him anything. I think what DR says when you get to this point is it isn't just about the WAS changing, now they have to win you back. So don't get him anything. See if he gets you anything. You are at the point where he needs to WIN you back and you can make the decision on whether that's what you want.

He many never try. He may keep trying to string you along, testing to see if the door is still open so he can land safely while still playing the field.

I'm not dreading V day all that much. W and I haven't gotten gifts for each other in I can't remember when. I can't remember the last good one. Likely not in the last three years. I look now at a lot of her actions and it seems like she was deliberately trying to push me out.

I was supposed to have a basketball game that day to preoccupy me, but the league folded because not enough teams committed.

So I could just do church and either go into work and catch up -- it's really quiet there on Sunday -- or do our taxes for the last time.

W is strapped for cash -- I speculated on why in my sitch -- and has asked me a couple of times when am I going to do them. Maybe that'll be my last V day gift to her.