He said he is done!!

[lea74]

RobX - this is great advise.

I can totally relate to this. It was probably only when my H moved out and told me he was done that I realised how much I wanted him. Up until that point i generally kept him at arms length always thinking he would be there - yes - this is my acceptance of the part that I played in the breakdown of our M.

So I think you are absolutely right - whilst we continue to be attached and show we are not the lost ones, we will be alone.