It's interestingly that we just hit the same point right now. I was just mentioning in my post too how I look at H and don't see how there could possibly be a future with the two of us. Not that I don't wish there could be, but we are just such different people now and where I am in life with family being a priority is not at all where he is at. So what does this all mean you think? DR doesn't really discuss these kind of walls that we hit. Is it our way of protecting ourselves and are we really at the point where are hearts are done or are we just having a low point b/c our hearts just need a break from the constant emotion strain? But what I'm trying to do and my advice to you is to just try to act as if. Let's give it some time to see if this is really what we want (kind of a cool down phase), but in the mean time, just in case, don't jeopardize the progress we've made. If you have to grit your teeth and say (instead of "duh" haha), "yes, we are going to church. Would you like to join us?" then just do it. It won't hurt you but it will help keep H motivated as you figure it out for yourself. It's not about leading him on, it's about keeping the progress going. Follow up on the therapy with him too. If he is really committed to you, then he needs to do that. And if he starts going to therapy and working on himself, you almost owe to yourself and to S to give him the chance to change. That's at least where I'm at and that hope thru therapy is what is the last string that is keeping my hope alive.
Really glad you had a great weekend at the conference. We all need times like that just to be with other people away from the H drama!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
