I think I have a good handle on how to communicate my feelings to her. That is, express the feelings, not blaming or demanding. I think part of earning respect is telling her how I feel and what I expect before I will consider doing favors or bowing to her.

She's drawn some lines in the sand and I can respect that. I'm saying it's high time I do so also. I don't expect the moon, but I do want something we can build on. I don't think it's okay for me to drive 150 miles when I don't get anything out of it but an hour or two w/ DDs. If my feelings don't matter to her, why should I do that? Her feelings matter to me and I want to help her.

Before I launch some potentially tainted missive at her, I do plan to discuss it w/ my C.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)