Sorry to hear what happened - and bravo on the finger!~
I hate to say it my H would have been the same way - before the bomb, and it would be worse now! I guess that's why we are separated now. The yelling is awful, but the coldness is really painful too. It just cuts to the bone and makes you feel like a non-person. I know it. And you deserve so much more. You just can't get blood from a stone. I feel for you. So sorry.