...the one thing he was worried about was supporting me and the girls if he left...he has been doing just that however i cant make any sense of it??
anyone heard something like that b4? he is here the majority of the time...however he also said he doesnt find it easy to relax and that he always walks in the house on the defensive... /quote]
Yep, EXACTLY what I lived with for four months!~ I couldn't believe soon after he left he said he was worried about being able to get me and S health insurance...I thought that was crazy. They actually feel they are doing what they HAVE to do.
And if you read my first thread, I called my H "Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde" b/c I never knew what I was going to get when he walked in the door. He was here a lot too. It's all similar.
Girl, you just gotta give him more time and SPACE. i couldn't do it at the time because I was so panicked, but looking back, I wish I had hunkered down and realized he'd come back around after having space. Now he is starting to come around and I suffered a great deal when I didn't have to. I wish I had heeded more advice and just not hung out around his moodiness for so long. Now that he's more rational we can actually talk about stuff, but then it was a terrible rollercoaster.
Take the advice no matter how little sense it makes. Give him the space, give yourself the space. Try to work on keeping your little corner of the world as calm and serene as possible. That is all you can control. Keep out of the way of the tornado that blows in with your H. Whoever said he's emotional and unpredictable is 100% right. Take care and try to keep your inner peace. This won't last forever and the more space you give him now, the sooner he'll come around.
