1 - going to the bookstore for some reads and coffee 2 - getting a facial while D is getting her haircut 3- booty on treadmill
Can you start providing some feedback on these GAL activities? 1 > what books did you read? 2 > what does your hair look like now? 3 > Is your butt sore from the treadmill or the 2x4's?
Writing what you're going to do... means nothing unless you've done it.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
oh that was great G...I would not have caught that!!! lol
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
luv, how is your weekend going. where are you emotionally right now?
are you making any lists for yourself?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Today...well it wasn't very good. H was very mean and distant...more than ever seriously. We went to pick up our boat today.
I asked him about my car (have to turn in my escalade it's leased) and I said, "I need to know what to do with the car" he said, "I don't know what to do" (meaning I don't want to buy you a car) He sarcastically said later in the afternoon "I don't care...why don't you get a bus pass"...that hurt.
I'm tired of this guy and all his hurtful sh*t...how much more do I have to take really?
I'm in the back room with all my kids because he's been on his blackberry for 3 hours no joke. He wanted to watch a movie and I said, "if you want me to watch a movie with you put that thing away" he said, "Im not done" like a kid so I said, "ok I'm outta here."
I left the room and he doesn't care one bit.
I'm sick of this....Robx I wanna be like you!
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Today...well it wasn't very good. H was very mean and distant...more than ever seriously. We went to pick up our boat today.
I asked him about my car (have to turn in my escalade it's leased) and I said, "I need to know what to do with the car" he said, "I don't know what to do" (meaning I don't want to buy you a car) He sarcastically said later in the afternoon "I don't care...why don't you get a bus pass"...that hurt.
I'm tired of this guy and all his hurtful sh*t...how much more do I have to take really?
I'm in the back room with all my kids because he's been on his blackberry for 3 hours no joke. He wanted to watch a movie and I said, "if you want me to watch a movie with you put that thing away" he said, "Im not done" like a kid so I said, "ok I'm outta here."
I left the room and he doesn't care one bit.
I'm sick of this....Robx I wanna be like you!
Return your lease, work with the dealership to get yourself another vehicle, they have your previous information, lease another vehicle, if they need to contact the bank, let them, you're still married, it's not like you can't get another vehicle.
His crap behavior is exactly that, crap behavior and you know I don't reward crap behavior, I ignore it and you need to stop rewarding his crap behavior with your attention.
Make yourself scarce, unavailable, he can't miss you and want to be around you if you're always there plus he's attached to his blackberry, I doubt he's working, he's probably texting friends or someone else but let him. He does it in front of you for one reason and one reason only, the effect on you. Nice. He's actively trying to hurt you, piss you off, ignore you.
Ignore him. Go to another room. Go out for the evening. Go out with some friends, go out for a bite or some drinks and enjoy the company of friends who enjoy spending time with you.
Seriously how long can you keep up this pace? He doesn't value you or the relationship he has with you. Is that an accurate statement? He doesn't tell you he loves you, takes you for granted, pokes fun at you in a way to lower your self-esteem, etc.
Create distance between you.
He has the opinion that you'll always be there to take his abuse and a person with that much power will treat their spouse very poorly.
my ex had one...and was attached at the hip with it...and used it to contact OM.