wow...where does strength come from when those we look to strength for need it the most?
Gardner you're only human...and this is someone who you shared your life with....not just a house or some meals...your life. So letting go, while it may be/sound easy to some...isnt so easy for all.
Your sentiment...your heart was in the right place...but given the point at which you're at...I think your words would fall on deaf ears (and some of them should...it seems you were passing too much blame on her with some of the stuff). If this were 6 months from now...or even a few years...it might have a better chance.
so take comfort that you didnt send it...that you stayed strong...and in the end you did the right thing.