Guess I wasn't finished (lol). I forgot to say that you do need to be able to forgive her, and I'm sure you know that. You have to do it for yourself more than anything. But it amazes me how the WAW thinks that all she has to do is be "ready" to go back home and her H should jump for joy and that's all there is to it. Shows she is still in the fog.
As already explained to you by G, her remorse will come in stages. I think everything will come in stages and that is why you must realize this will take a long time to heal. But you are off to a good start. Don't panic if you have a backslide.....I don't know anyone who hasn't said the wrong thing or did something the wrong way.
Take care of "you".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
