Allen,

thx for the advice. I have been implementing since reading your posts but I must say that you are completely correct in that Men are MUCH better at the silent treatment than women. IT is very hard to do the silent treatment, especially when we have been snowed in...ARGHHH!!! I haven't been COMPLETELY silent as I do answer him if it is general question about dinner, playing with our 9 month old son, etc. Am I doing this right or should i be completely silent? My husband REALLY likes games and playing mind games so I am not so sure if being completely silent is the way to go??? however, I am not a man and have no claim to know how the male brain works...I just know that if my husband would take it to the extreme and I am not sure if I could "beat him" being completely silent.

I did mess up today when husband asked if i wanted something from the store...i told him "no, i am fine and I don't know how much money is in the bank." That set husband off because last week i changed my online bank login so that he didn't have access to my personal account and he harped on the fact that we couldn't see how much was in the bank because i was mean spirited and changed my passcode. he said by me doing that he REALLY knew that our marriage was done! I did reply to him saying "I simply changed my password and that has nothing to do with our marriage. I told you that I was doing it and didn't know that it would lock our account." I stopped from saying anything else becuase of thought of the post from Allen and was kicking myself for opening my mouth at all.


Me: 28
H: 32
1st marriage 4 both
1 1/2 year married
2gether for 9
1S: 6months
1stepson: 2yo