the one thing he was worried about was supporting me and the girls if he left...he has been doing just that however i cant make any sense of it??
I'm sure he does worry about it. He's making a tough choice. He may see it as the only one. As hard as it is to see esp. at this point, he really is hurting. I know you are too.
As far as his inability to relax goes, how are you doing with regards to that? You can only control (with practice) your own actions and reactions. Not his. If you're relaxed he may pick up on it and be calmer or he may not. Kind of like an animal. The bottom line is how you feel within and about youself.
