Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thank you Sandi. I do feel much better. I got to a point where I realized that it wasn't worth it to me to obsess about this sitch as I cannot control what my W does. To be honest even if she was having an EA/PA (still don't know but I don't think so)it wouldn't even matter because I always told my W that if she ever had an A that would be the one thing that I could never forgive. I know people deal with tough times as my W and I did but it is unacceptable to me how she handled it. After 19 years together I deserved better.

I still have love for my W but it's not the same as it was 3 months ago. Couple of questions for you. Is it that uncommon for a WAW not to see their LBS for an extended time after they left? Might some of them just need some time to recover from the stress? Not that it matters too much as I'm fine either way but the DB and DR books seems to indicate that NC is the best during the beginnig of a S. I look at it this way, right now I work on me.I feel stronger and more mature than ever. I'm not necessarily giving up on my M and my W but I'm not consumed by it any longer. In my sitch, wouldn't it make sense to give my W lots and lots of space and try to connect with her again after many months or a year? figure I would see where she stands at that time as some situations I read about sometimes change after time. I guess anything is possible.

Sandi, thank you for your advice and help. You and others really helped me through some difficult weeks. Please keep checking in with my sitch. Who knows maybe something will change for the better.

I will help others on this board. I do like to help others and hopefully I can offer some support. I'll keep in touch.

Best,
mza8