Does detachment come and go? I went for several days feeling totally separate from all the M issues (back when I joined a few months ago). Then I was an emotional roller coaster. Now I feel totally distanced again.
Detachment in the beginning comes and goes. You get good days where you don't care what is happening with the WAS and you get days where you can't stop thinking about the situation to a point it bring you down.
I see it as a bit like a wave crashing against a wall (bear with me :)) The wave keeps hitting and going back but each wave get's stronger until it get['s over that wall and becomes completely detached.
You're the wave. You're going to keep hitting a wall and go backwards and forwards until you eventually break over the wall and become detached.
It's hard. I only became detached recently after the lie from my W. The straw that broke the camel's back. I am so glad I did. A weight lifted from me like you would not believe.
Detachment, in my opinion, is the best thing you can do for you and your M. But it's tough.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
