My Story...possible "grass is greener" scenario?

[mza8]

nsw1222, I would listen to the advice of Sandi and others. They are all trying to help you. What they are telling you WORKS!!! Their advice will help YOU! I know it's difficult but you must become a stronger person for yourself, if not you will drive yourself crazy. I think most people that read your posts see what you're doing as pursuing. It's a turn off.

I read your posts and some are difficult to read because you continue to bring up the same things...the same wrong things. You are struggling not to contact your W after only a few days. Other than "necessary" discussions with your W about your D3, you need to stop contacting her. Give her some space. You are pushing her further away...and you know it, so stop! I agree with others that if you want any chance of saving your marriage, you need to GAL and leave your W alone for now. Remember, leave her alone for NOW. Doesn't mean you don't try in time but right now is not the time. Your constant pursuing is unattractive to your W, again you know this as it has been said to you numerous times by people on this board.

Look, it's hard I know. I live where the snow is heavy today and I would have loved to be stuck in my house with my W and spend the time together but that's not the case...this time. Who knows if next winter I might be stuck in my house during a snow storm and be WITH my W again. Same goes for you. You have a chance to be with her again if you let her go for now and GAL. The others on this board are becoming frustrated with you because you continue to be stuck without having left the gate yet. Try with everything that is in you to at least take some baby steps for you. You mentioned not wanting to call your parents. I think you should call them. They will be there to support you and you need it right now as we all do...that's why we come to this board. Family will help see you through.

Please take my comments and others advice as help and not criticism. Everyone on this board wants the best for everyone and try to help each other. My advice is not nearly as good as the veterans so I will leave that to them but I will offer you support. Don't do ANYTHING that is pursuing...have self control. If you want to talk to someone tonight then talk to all of us on this board. I'll check in from time to time tonight and talk. How about talking about something other than your sitch...it could be your baby step for today. Sorry for the long post. I try to keep up with your sitch and I hope you can begin to help yourself.

Best,
mza8