Ha! I used to do that to my H at our lake house... it was old, too.
The body scrub is easyeasy... It's just Dove body wash w/exfoliating stuff in it, and a loofah! I think I lost a layer of skin!
Hey, had a good purchase today... get this... it's made by Spanx. black and white zebra print cami (w/Spanx control inside!), and it's long... so I am wearing it under a black cardigan (ya know the tighter fitting ones, that are shorter w/the 3/4 sleeves)... and it sticks out the bottom... LOVE IT! shaves off 10 lbs!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
So, H and I had an "exchange" today, initiated by ME!
I've been following my plan of not giving him attention. I've been responding to him (not immediately) in a light, conversational, fun tone when we talked during the week (while he was traveling). I did so good, too! I didn't call him at all. He always called me. And, I only txt'd him once, to let him know his check had arrived...
H got in from out of town, late last night. S10 had a bball game this am, and, usually, I would wake him w/a coffee, something to eat, etc... NOPE! Not this time, I sent S10 to wake him, and tell him we'd see him at the game.
Then, at the game I enjoyed my time w/the other parents, but was friendly if he initiated conversation...
We went to lunch w/another family, and I focused on talking to the other Mom, but again, was friendly if he initiated conversation... (but kept it short).
We get home, and he asks me if I want to go to see the Monster Trucks tonight w/the boys. I ask him if it's a family event, or is it a boys thing... He doesn't really answer me.
Then, we're in the kitchen, and he asks me again, in front of the boys, if I'm going. So, I ask him again... is this a Mom thing, too? If it's just boys, go ahead, and you three have fun! He raises his voice, and starts this sarcastic tirade about not answering him. And, says, a SIMPLE YES OR NO PLEASE! I look him directly in the eye (w/no tears yea me!) and say, "NO, no thank you." He picks up his stuff, all the while blabbering about the exchange. I say nothing. He leaves to go run errands.
I didn't want to say anything in front of the boys. So, I called him then since he was in the car... And, I say something like...
"H, you need to stop yelling at me like you just did. It was unnecessary, and uncalled for, and you not only bothered me with it, but weren't a very good example to the boys. Also, whether you want to hear this or not, I am seriously giving everything I have left emotionally to just not fall apart daily. I love you. I miss my husband, I am trying really hard, SO, you need to knock off that yelling immediately."
He tries to explain it away... I wasn't having any of it. I just replied. I said what I needed to. Thanks. CLICK.
Didn't cry folks!
And, I spoke my mind. Afterward, I felt like I could have chosen some better words, not told him I loved him, etc... but, seriously, I'm concerned he is thinking that, after a year of this living in limbo, it's okay with me now. NOT So, I'm glad I did.
Better yet (G and Cutter, you haven't heard this part), he gets back from errands.. He brought me a ticket! LoL I walked right past him, and asked S10 if his friend would like to use it, then turned to H, and said "Thank you, and I appreciate the effort, but I made alternate plans."
He's been trying to get my attention ever since. Coming in and asking questions... I'm following through w/my intent to not give him what he wants right now, with nothing AT ALL given to me. And, of course to do it w/out being bitchy, just purposeful.
Next step...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
