The divorce seems eminent. She has her mind made up. She says she doesn't want to stay married to me anymore. She was about to file Monday but somehow held up after my kids and I surprised her with a dozen roses and a total day of beauty at a spa as a gift the day before for her birthday. I know..... pursuing, but I made it from the kids.
uggg.... supplicating, that's horrible, un-masculine behavior, can I buy your love back?
regardless if it's from the kids or not.
and she didn't hold off filing because of flowers and a day at the spa, she's in control and she'll do that whenever she wants to because she knows you want the opposite of the divorce and she enjoys the power in your relationship and she will treat you poorly because of this.
I told you this before, you just don't want to listen, you just want to do what you think "feels" right: pursuing, buying gifts, getting angry, telling her to go counselling, getting emotional, etc.
When you stop doing these things and want to try something that might work let me know. ;-)
