I wonder why I want to stay married to her. I suppose I think I can change things, start a new marriage with her, and raise our kids in a two parent family. We have so much in common. I look at these online dating sites and nobody interests me.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
Yeah, I totally lost my cool. I just wanted to let this guy know that he was dealing with another person on this side and was destroying two families. I wanted to make him feel guilty.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
The anger just got the best of me. I know it wasn't endearing but I was just showing her that I wasn't going to sit back and tolerate that $hit. I was royally pissed. It sure felt good.
I've mellowed out now. Today she caught me looking at BMW M5's on the internet. I think that bothered her.
Pigskin.. I see that you guys separated after your W's A. Did you kick her out? I tried to do that but her lawyer said that I couldn't. She won't leave either. I am stuck here with her and she treats me like dog$hit.
My W is making a huge mistake. I just want to let her know before she does it.
When she first dropped the bomb she said she wanted to move out, but I resisted since I thought that would just allow her to escalate the affair.
After trying many things, none of which worked, I finally summoned the guts to tell her the affair had to stop or she needed to go. She did not stop the contact, so she got an apartment. Originally we swapped out on weekends so she could spend time with the kids, under the condition that I would go along with it if she ended all contact with the OM. When I found out she had connected with him on a networking website, I called her on it and now I don't swap with her anymore.
We're not legally separated, but she seems to be settling in to her separate space and has not indicated any desire to come back. She's never said she wanted to work on us; she does not see us together again as a couple. But I continue to hold out hope for us. I've detached, and don't concern myself with her activities anymore.
I have no idea if she is still in contact with OM, but I'm guessing she is, just because of the depth of her EA. She told me a couple of months ago that she broke it off, but with her out of the house it doesn't matter anymore until she decides she wants to reconcile.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
When she first dropped the bomb she said she wanted to move out, but I resisted since I thought that would just allow her to escalate the affair.
After trying many things, none of which worked, I finally summoned the guts to tell her the affair had to stop or she needed to go. She did not stop the contact, so she got an apartment. Originally we swapped out on weekends so she could spend time with the kids, under the condition that I would go along with it if she ended all contact with the OM. When I found out she had connected with him on a networking website, I called her on it and now I don't swap with her anymore.
We're not legally separated, but she seems to be settling in to her separate space and has not indicated any desire to come back. She's never said she wanted to work on us; she does not see us together again as a couple. But I continue to hold out hope for us. I've detached, and don't concern myself with her activities anymore.
I have no idea if she is still in contact with OM, but I'm guessing she is, just because of the depth of her EA. She told me a couple of months ago that she broke it off, but with her out of the house it doesn't matter anymore until she decides she wants to reconcile.
Sounds like a plan. I wish I had that option. I think if my wife was out on her own she would get the idea really fast.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
Hey, I made my quota this year! Seriously, maybe when S12, almost S13 gets his license... )I'll let him have the wagon... LoL Can you imagine?) I won't need so many seats now. Seating for seven is required, only they're all getting a little big for the third row!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Nope, I had a Land Rover that was dark blue, and my wagon is silver. I want bright white! I have a car wash within 2 miles, and that's what I have two boys for, right? I'd seriously get it now, but it would be a shame to contaminate w/soccer and football cleats and basketball stink! Luckily, D18 is moved out, or it wouldn't even be an option. She hits everything within a five mile radius!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I'd seriously get it now, but it would be a shame to contaminate w/soccer and football cleats and basketball stink! Luckily, D18 is moved out, or it wouldn't even be an option. She hits everything within a five mile radius!