So proud of you calling her out about her bad mood just b/c she had to be with her own children for two hours. Wow!

But you know what? Maybe the next time she is so free to display her bad moood (and there will be a next time) you might speak to her like you would a child and tell her that everyone experiences feelings of bad moods--but that adults learn how to deal with it instead of taking it out on the family members. She is cake eating with these bad moods and it's time to stop it. She doesn't appreciate you putting up with them and she takes advantage. If it was once a month....then I might see that, but every day???

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she didn't want me pushing her chair in for her (like a gentlemen)...


Okay, fine....then she needs to experience losing that nice gentleman touch. I know this is not what you prefer.....but I think she resents you so much (at times) that she doesn't want you to do anything like that. Some women find it offensive (which I think is a result of women's lib), but give her what she wants and stop doing those things. Let her see what it's like when you do it for other ladies. Yep, you need to still show that you are a gentleman to other women (and see how that balloon floats for her). You don't have to completely stop being who you are, just b/c she doesn't want you doing anything for "her".

You may feel that you are spinning your wheels, but I do think you are making progress now. I think you will be able to see a lot of change when she finally stops staying up all night on the computer. If she was in a good mood after being on it, that would really concern me a lot. But, I'm wondering if she's looking up information about OM? Maybe she's reading his FB or something and sees he is moving on without her. That would put her in a foul mood. Perhaps she was hoping to apply some pressure on him regarding this possible move, and he didn't respond like she hoped. I'm just guessing.

There is "something" that is drawing her to late hours on the computer. At some point in your R with her, you will have to call her out about that, and tell her that it isn't an issue of trusting her but that it is an issue of her being isolated from her family and causing you to feel disrespected. She obviously places other things above her family & M.....and that is pretty disrespectful.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!