My Story...possible "grass is greener" scenario?

[sandi2]

Now listen, this is when you have to "fight" your own mental attitude b/c it leads you into wrong thinking.

they're all over there trapped together having a fun family time while I'm here with no one.

You don't know that! They may be arguing or bored out of their skulls, but so what? Your life should not be centered around them! Stop wrong thinking. Don't you have a friend or relative to talk to? Surely D3 and SO are not the only people on planet earth you know.

Again...it just feels like solitary confinement...and its very damaging/straining on my psyche.

You are having a pity party. Don't you know that people suffer from broken R's but they have to push forward and make the most of things? You have to be determined to do that and emotions be d----!

do I really have anything left to lose by sending her a simple message of "Hi" and waiting to see if she responds?

DON'T YOU DARE!!!

Or will going almost 3 days(by tomorrow) without talking to her go a long way in making me stronger and helping me to ward off the co-dependency? Better yet...is it likely to create any sort of positive vibe in my sitch?

It will be one more day that you can look at yourself in the mirror and be proud that you acted like a man instead of a wu$$. It will be one more day that will give you more strength and one more day that builds your self-respect. Taking a day at a time is what you have to do, but if you break down and call her....then you are starting back at square one again. You don't want to do that simply b/c you are feeling lonely.

When the snows clears.....you have got to get out of that house and find a life! This is crazy! No wonder you are so dependent on her. Find a hobby, sport, friends, go to the mall, do something for crying out loud.