Trying to move on

[ClingingToHope]

I was driving D10 to a birthday party this morning when she told me some developments with W. She says W is broke. She paid a few hundred dollars to a company and the company was supposed to hold the check. The company did not hold the check and she was on the telephone yelling at them.

So I wondered what that was about.

Then she told me something is wrong with refinancing the house. D10 said she was going to refinance but her lawyer told her not to.

So I'm trying to put those two things together. W mentioned last week when she was excited about refinancing that she paid $400 for an appraisal. I'm guessing she tried to halt the appraisal after her attorney told her not to refinance.

My guess on the attorney is that W told him she'd agreed to joint physical custody and a lower child support payment as long as we got the house payment lowered.

Over the course of 10 years, this was going to save me substantial money -- and when we were talking about it I told her an attorney would not like her agreeing to it.

But she did agree.

I'm guessing the attorney told her not to refinance until AFTER the D and to go for every dime possible. That's what attorneys do.

Maybe I'll bring it up this week to see what her reaction is. If this is going to get nasty then the first thing I'll have to do is stop giving her any money, make her file to get it. I've been much too nice so far.

Unfortunately I ran into W this morning picking D10 up from theater. I was hoping not to see her. I brushed her off as best I could. Forget the "shining" part. I just want to get this over with and figure out a way where she becomes as little a part of my life as possible.