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Rabitt - your timing is impeccable. Because the wall re-fortified itself between last night and this morning. So I needed that pep talk. After I came home from work, W was in a bad mood after a whopping 2 hours with the kids on her own. That started things, but I took a different approach. I called her out on her bad mood...instead of letting it brew, I said wow you seem to be in a foul mood what's the deal. W replied she is in bad mood, tired of younger daughter. I asked what specifically and she said she didn't want to talk about it. Good news is she didn't project it to me nor take it out on me.

Then there was last nights social event where at times she was watching every move I was making and at other times just being cold and telling me she didn't want me pushing her chair in for her (like a gentlemen)...then after the event it was back to pulling out her computer instead of hanging out and then staying up till 2:30 or 3 in the morning to a more typical very cold "goodnight" after I said goodnight to her.
Then his morning where again she woke up in foul mood...probably b/c she had to take daughter to ballet. I again tried the technique of calling her out on the bad mood...she apologized if she was acting short b/c she said she was fine.

W took D3 to ballet for first time in months...when W wanted me to take D to doctor yesterday, I said ok but that means you get ballet lessons the next morning. I got no response, but this morning, that is exactly what happened.

So the wall is refortified...its so much less tense around here when at least a couple of bricks are chipped away.