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[pearlharbr]

I wish I knew the magic words to say to get your mind off X and OW. People cheat down from their partner, usually WAY down. Remember that.

Let go. You're holding onto the anger so tightly that you're not allowing yourself to reach for something new.

Why do you care so much about X and OW being out and about town together? Look at it objectively. If you had friends who had been together for 20+ years and the man suddenly had a much younger and much dimmer girlfriend, what would you think? I would think he's an idiot. And I would think she's only after his money. I wouldn't think poorly of the left partner unless she was still pining over him or chasing after him.

Live your life on your terms, not anyone else's.

Good job on seeing the realtor and looking into cash and roommate options. Keep the momentum moving forward.