The two things I see you must do work first is your low self esteem and breaking contact with your SO to try to pull out of this co-dendency you have on her.
I tried to give suggestions, but you are "explaining" (again)how hard on you it would be not to see her .....and how hard a schedule would be. You can't have it both ways. There has to be some sacrifices and some tough decions made. I doubt very seriously that the two of you will keep a twice per day trip back & forth always, b/c neither of you could have much of a life and move forward running like that. You have to be realistic, and to me, that's not very realistic. I can't imagine how unsettled that baby must feel, but like I said.....can't have it both ways.
You need to talk to your IC about your co-denpendency and low self-esteem instead of making it a marriage session. This needs to be about you.
Unless you can at least "try" to work on that, I jsut don't know how to help you b/c nothing we suggest will do any good. It would be a wast of vauluable time.
If you have specific question about "how" to do certain steps, then we can go from there, but otherwise, I think things will be stuck where you are. You don't want that, do you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
