Lost, we do know exactly what you are feeling. I have been at this awhile now (though not nearly as long as some here - I am at almost a year post bomb). As much growth as I have had and as detached as I have become, I still have days when I wake up and wish it would just go away. I too have done the screaming thing, at home when just the dog or I were home - she thinks I'm crazy - and late at night out on a drive, even as recently as just a few weeks ago.
I have just been leaving my H alone as much as possible - he does live at home still so it is a bit of a different situation. I don't pressure about anything, except finances a bit now, only because he is actually at a point where he is starting to listen. I have taken on the responsibilities of absolutely everything by myself. Maybe someday he will realize the issues are internal, not the externals. And absolutely no R talks or anything that could lead to them.
