I will be honest here. I really don't like going to family therapy. We have sought out a few, but they weren't well read on infidelity. They are also expensive.
For men in particular this is a trying ordeal.
1. We have to talk about what's happening on our home - we feel our privacy is violated 2. We have to talk about our feelings - enough said there 3. We have to pay a LOT of MONEY 4. We have to reveal intimate nature to a stranger.
This is hard for men. All four points here are something much easier for women to do than men.
I found it a LOT more inviting to watch videos (michelle has a GREAT one for sale as a DVD on her site which I bought. parts of which are on the youtube site). Its much like a church sermon without God being mentioned. A few hours of that and you will want to rebuild your marriage for sure.
Guerilla divorcebusting on michele's site here is excellent. I cry every time I watch it.. its about 40 mins long.
DOWNLOAD the videos she has here, particularly guerilla divorcebusting... if you can sit with your H to watch that I bet he will enjoy it...