Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

joint custody of the children to a request for sole custody of the children to be awarded to her, which is what she did on Wednesday.

What state are you in? I'd like to know what that sole custody means, legally before you build up your anxiety over it.

In my state, there is legal and physical custody, legal joint custody is pretty much the norm, and physical custody is where the difference is.

My stbxw will likely be the 'custodial' physical parent, but I have rights and that is not about taking my d9 away from me, it's just where she will spend most of her weekly time, at stbxw for school, etc.

There is little chance of me getting 50/50 physical custody, and that sucks, but that is NOT the end of the world.

Try and keep that anxiety away from you as best you can, or it will influence your decision making along the way.

Sending thoughts your way.

Hey IWITW.

I'm in podunk hillbilly Oklahoma. The paperwork seems cut and dried.

Initially we were supposed to have joint legal and physical custody, and the paperwork reflected that. Now, she's changed it so that she's requesting to be awarded sole custody of the children.

The kids have spent 50-50 time with each of us for over a year.

Well,I want to continue to have 50-50 custody. Their mother has already taken them away from me for 50% of the time that I used to get with them, and she voluntarily gave up 50% of the time that she used to get with them. And now, as vindictive and hateful as she's become, she's trying to take them away from me even more!

I'm trying IWITW, but it's damn hard. This legal crap is scary and intimidating. It's hard for me to get my brain around the fact that she's doing this!

Thanks man! Back at ya'.


ps - I really do appreciate you, and everyone else here.