Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[25yearsmlc]

I don't disagree with sandi Stuck. She's got good insight. As for the flirting, only do it if you can pull it off as if you simply like her/attracted to her BUT NOT that she's the only one or your main love, etc. You have to be so careful about not coming onto her as a pursuer...and again, forget the A that she won't admit, meaning, drop it.

It's not up for discussion at this point, you know? And the idea that we'll both see our pasts the same way, is counterproductive and a bad idea. It doesn't work and their scorecards and the way we each look at the past is different. Not saying shse doesn't regret the A, I think she does deeply. But she's also got to believe it was somehow not all her fault and that she can justify it some. I would.... So just show her that you are a man only a fool would leave, and leave the results up to God, as you keep saying you are doing. I know it's tough, but you have to do it. Nothing else has worked and this gives you dignity and that counts.

I have 2 relatives who div and then remarried and it was years later and both couples were happier the 2nd time around. But they maintained some dignity as I think you have, meaning mostly not losing your temper or badgering...she blames being married for the problems she has so let her see that without the M, she's still miserable and you are not...let the truth be revealed... If somehow, she's not miserable and seems happier over time, (they always act happier right after the sep/div) without you, then so be it. Better to know now than after 10-40 more years of breaking your heart....

Be upbeat, be a great father, a good stbxh, a friend who sincerely wishes her well, (which you are, in the big picture) and that you are a great catch for the "right woman" and we'll all hope she sees that she's that woman...but know AND TRUST that you'll be alright no matter what she does.
It's the truth.
J-