This is the worst case of disrespect I have read on this board so far.
Nah....I've read worse. But this is his W and his life, so that makes it worse.
She's a SAHM, so that means you pay for the Internet, cell phones, etc. Cut it off and stop enabling her activities. Don't accept anything she tells you. She has lied constantly to you. She puts you into a corner (at least you feel that you are) and tells you that you don't trust her.....well, duh, guess not. It's about her showing respect to her H, M, & family. That should be more important to her thant some "friend" on the other side of the world (if you're on my side of the globe) and if she can't get her head out of her a$$ enough to see that, then you must take stronger actions ASAP. Do not be afraid of making her mad. Expect it and be prepared for it. Plan ahead and be braced for the very worst.
It can turn around. I am living proof of that. But it is not easy and it takes a strong man to weather the storm.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
