I do think that MLCers recognize that "something" is wrong. They live in a state of confusion and internal conflict. They just don't realize, at least initially and for a long while until they look if they look, that their problems lie with unresolved issues deep in them rather than with anything and everything around them. My H has on a couple of times when he has opened up just said how messed up he is. Yet he can't seem to figure out how to fix it.
And I too noticed my H detaching from the family and kind of drifting away months before he verbalized anything was wrong looking back on things. That makes it so hard to pinpoint when his MLC may have actually begun but certainly long before I realized it!
Yes, offer him the omelet if you feel like it. The thing with MLC is keeping your expectations at zero for invitations, etc. Invite, offer, whatever, but don't expect anything from your H right now.
