Quick Update: baby step for me. Last night i didn't do everything for W. First off, I let her car stay outside instead of pulling ito the garage, I didn't even remind her. That was tough for me. This morning she remembered and had to go scrape the snow of of it...again, I didn't offer to do that for her. I also let the dishes stack up in the sink all night, that is a 180 for me and me not letting W cake eat. I continued to let them sit there this morning (we took the day off) and at one point W even casually asked if the dishwasher full (hinting that must be the reason they are stacking up). I just said no and left the kitchen. Aobut 15 minutes later, she took care of the dishes and I sat on the couch reading a book. Now I won't do this everytime, but I've done more than my fair share.
This is fantasitc!! You deserve a metal b/c it is a step in the right direction. My suggestion is to continue to do this until she really gets the message. One time won't be enough. Remember what Michele says about that.
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she has hung around me much more than has been the norm. She has not been leaving to do her own thing, but usually suggesting we do something together.
I promise the dog does not have anything to do with this. She is attracted to your behavior! You get it......you are beginning to get it!
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Wall is still up when it comes to us, but maybe not quite as fortified/defiant...but still up as is to be expected.
Yes, but I think a brick came down. I've been that woman, GW, and I know it takes time and it's hard for her to let that wall down. You are beginning to make the difference for her. Now, she will begin to have hope that you are worth her taking the risk! Gee, I'm really excited!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
