Thank you all for your responses. Your advice is much appreciated. I thank God I found this BB. I messed up when I first posted and put it on newcomers. This is where I meant to put it.
OP, I will definitely take your advice to heart and post any letters or emails before I send them to get opinions. If I can save myself a headache or heartache I'm jumping on that wagon!
The things that H said that I had the strongest reactions to are the things that I knew had some validity. Those are the things I'm working on in myself for myself. They're not for H's benefit because he's in so deep right now that I don't think he would notice the changes anyway.
Could it be possible that H has been in MLC for a couple years and that's why he shut himself off from us? He made comments to me before that he felt like he just existed. He lost interest in a lot of the things he liked to do and the stuff he had to do he seemed to do on automatic pilot. I'm a fixer and I just couldn't fix him. I would just wait it out and then he come back to me renewed and things would be wonderful for a while.
This time I know there is no fixing him. In fact, folks have been making comments to S26 at work asking him what's wrong with his dad. (They work at the same place) I guess the fog is really heavy and it's affecting his performance at work. Earlier on in this (at H's request)I sent him an article on the symptoms of low testosterone and I still believe that may be part of the problem because H had all symptoms listed. As stated above he will not go see a doctor. I am extremely worried about his health because I can see him self destructing and know there is nothing I can do. At the age of 56 H is looking like an old man and these are all changes in the last few months.
H is coming over tomorrow morning to do our taxes. Plan on playing it cool. Kids have all requested a big homemade breakfast and I love to cook. Would it be OK to offer H an omelet?
